Have you ever worked at a place where compliments were few and far between? Where criticisms by employers, bosses, and managers were spoken daily, yet praise and commendation for a job well done was almost unheard of…if ever uttered at all?
Unfortunately, a number of us can answer yes to these questions, whether it’s in reference to a job held long ago in high school or, sadly, maybe it’s one that you’re in today. And while it’s no big surprise that constant negative communication hurts us, that it beats us down, some still use this tactic in the workplace today. Some people in leadership roles feel like they have to belittle their staffs, to point out everything they do wrong, in order to get them to do things right. But often this form of communication has the opposite effect, demotivating others and making them want to do less and less, not more.
This is one area I’m super passionate about as I want the people involved in my business to know their value, to realize how important they are to me. That’s why I am always careful to say that no one works for me. They work with me. We all work together in order to achieve a common goal.
Personally, I do this by respecting and crediting the people who’ve helped get me where I am today. I want them to know that I appreciate everything they do to help me achieve my goals. I want them to realize that I value them as a person, as well as their expertise and their skills. I know they’re worth and I recognize it.
So many people in the workplace today don’t get the compliments they deserve. They aren’t told when they do a good job. They aren’t given that pat on the back when they spend their days, and sometimes their nights and weekends for the mother ship.
For instance, I had a young lady working with me who was doing a fantastic job. She was incredibly responsible and amazing at what she did, so that very first week of work, I gave her a compliment. I’d no more finished telling her how happy I was with her when I noticed that she was tearing up. I said, “You don’t hear compliments often, do you?” Sadly, she replied, “No.”
What I’ve come to learn is that when you compliment those that work with you, it has a way of fueling them to want to work harder, to want to do more, to strive to be the best that they can be. Of course, I’m not suggesting that you ever offer false gratitude or just throw out kind words because others will work harder for you. That’s not going to get you anywhere and will only make people not trust you because they’ll see you as fake, as dis-genuine, and untrue.
Rather, it means letting those around you know how important they are to you, how much you value the time and effort they put forth on your behalf. It means letting them know that you see how hard they work to help you achieve your goals, that you recognize how much pride they have in a job well done.
Everyone likes to feel appreciated. Everyone likes to be valued, and this type of positive communication is one way to achieve that goal. And it’s one that pays off for both of you in the end. By the way…I appreciate that you take the time to read my blog. ☺