Recently I did a favor for someone. They were looking to further their career, so I decided to help and connected them to two different people who I thought could possibly take this person to the next level. I’ve done this in the past for people I know and was more than happy to do it again. But that feeling didn’t last long.
I soon learned that this person didn’t follow up with the people I had introduced them to. They did nothing. They totally let the introductions go, which tells me that, even though they claimed to want to further their career, that wasn’t what they really wanted at all.
Initially, this person spent a lot of time and energy telling me how they were so unhappy, how they were absolutely miserable in their current career. They shared how they’d give anything to be doing something different. It was time for a change and they were ready to make it.
Yet, when provided the opportunity to “put their money where their mouth was,” they came up with an excuse as to why it didn’t work out. In this case, it was, “I didn’t have the time to follow up.”
Look, I get that we’re all busy, but we make the time to do the things we want to do. For instance, if I offered you free tickets to see your favorite artist or to go to your favorite sporting event, you’d make the time, right? Of course you would.
It’s that type of commitment that was clearly lacking, which made me realize that this person didn’t really want it bad enough. They thought they wanted it, but they really didn’t or else they would’ve taken those introductions and made the most of them immediately. They would’ve pursued the two individuals like a lion chasing their lunch. But they didn’t.
Is there something in your life that you keep telling yourself you want, but you find multiple excuses as to why it’s not happening? If so, ask yourself if you really want it. Maybe you’ll discover that it’s something that you think you “should” want, perhaps because a family member or friend, or even society, says you should, but you don’t.
Or it’s possible that the benefits of staying where you are outweigh the work and effort that it would take you to get where you want to go. That’s not necessarily bad. It just means that it may not be the right time or the right course of action for you. That’s okay. As long as you realize it.
The sad thing for this person is, not only did they lose the opportunities these two people could’ve provided, but they’ve also lost my help in the future. I won’t put myself out there again, risking the likelihood that I’ll be wasting the time of the people I refer, but also risking my reputation. I don’t want to be known as Red, the person who makes connections that don’t mean a thing.
In the end, we all make choices and must live with the consequences that result. So if you don’t like the life path that you’re facing, then maybe you need to ask yourself if you really want it. If the answer is no, then it may be time to let it go. No excuses necessary.